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Sunday, October 20, 2013
Day 1 In Country: Arriving in Tegucigalpa & Meeting Some of the Team
Saturday, October 19, 2013
Baby Ortyl blog lovers, meet my amazing Mother, Connie.
So here I come, mother and grandmother, with a different perspective. It has been difficult to watch my helpless little grandson struggle for his life, and at the same time watch my daughter's heart break. Before I ship out for Tegucigalpa, Honduras, and my week with the BabyHeart Medical Mission, I'd like to share a bit about my background...my story within the story.
When I was but 8 months old, I endured a life-threatening burn accident. Lying in a bathinette, I grabbed the cord of a coffee percolator, and dumped the entire contents onto myself: appliance, scalding coffee grounds, and boiling coffee. I've never known very much about the accident or the recovery process. I know that I went into shock after one loud scream, that I was in the ICU for about a month. My hospitalization was almost 65 years ago, at a time when parents were not encouraged, or even allowed to assist with their child's care. My parents were only able to visit with me for about one hour a day. I know that I incurred first, second, and third degree burns over my entire body, and the doctors told my parents that I would probably not survive, but if I did I would probably never have hair or eyebrows. I grew up in the midst of almost complete silence regarding the accident, my scars, and the story that went with it. And the fact that no one ever talked about my accident gave it a shameful feeling and so, of course, I didn't ask about it either.
Every now and then I learned a new tidbit, usually when I overheard my mother answering someone else's questions about the scar on my arm. I learned the most amazing and disturbing piece of information about eight years ago. My uncle (my mother's younger brother) told someone that he remembered seeing me the day they brought me home from the hospital. I was wrapped completely in gauze bandages, except for little openings for my eyes and my mouth. That visual brought some strong emotion to my reality, which up until then had been a story that I would recite without any real feeling. And yet, even though I had no memory of any of it, I assumed that the story was not a happy one.
When Becky & Greg were first told about Oakes heart defect, I thought surely it was a misreading of the ultrasound. How could they possibly detect a heart defect at eighteen weeks? Each time they went back for a repeat, I was certain the signs would disappear. This was not to be. I was delighted and honored when Becky and Greg told me that little Oakes middle name would be Lee, in honor of me, because they wanted him to be brave and strong, like I had been, to endure whatever was coming.
Towards the end of Becky's pregnancy, Dale and I visited the Ortyls and accompanied them on a tour of the NICU and the CICU, where we were told Oakes would be spending a good deal of time in the beginning. Although I tried to be present and appropriate, walking through those units that day was excruciating. I felt I was in a foreign world. It was terrifying to see those tiny, helpless babies hooked up to such big machines, with so many lines and monitors running in and out of their little cribs. Lights were blinking, monitors buzzing, and parents were sitting in darkened rooms near their sick little babies. I wanted to fold in on myself and become as small and contained as possible. I didn't want this world to become a part of mine.
Although Becky went full term, Oakes birth was a scheduled event. And unlike my experiences with the births of my other grandchildren up until that time (Beau, Gray, and Isla) I was not allowed to be with Becky at Oakes' birth. We Fox girls sat with her during labor, but when it was time for Oakes to be delivered she was taken away from us (Sarah, Christina, and myself) and rolled into an operating room, where the walls were lined with pediatric specialists...just in case. Becky had a few brief moments with Oakes once he arrived, and then Greg and I escorted the pediatric team that wheeled him over to St. Louis Children's and into the NICU. Those first few days were scary. We knew his heart was not properly formed, and that in a very short time he would need his first open heart surgery. I wanted to spend as much time with him as I could, and hold him as much as possible. For the first few days Becky was still in Barnes, but could visit often. Then she went home and was trying to spend time with Isla and rest up for what was coming. I sat rocking Oakes for hours, trying to keep him comfortable, and to prevent him from ever feeling alone. Of course, he was receiving excellent care in the NICU. Within a few days he was moved to the CICU, and it was in those first few days and weeks that I met so many of the wonderful nurses who loved and cared for Oakes. In the early, scary days, I leaned on Nurses Tammy and Mel. They were so kind, and competent, and reassuring.
Every picture of Oakes brings a smile and a tear. He is remarkable. He was constantly enduring the most horrific procedures, but when he would wake up he would smile and joyfully wave his little arms. He went through so much, but he loved so well!
I don't know my story, but I do know Oakes' story, and you do, too. If he had lived, he never would have doubted for a moment what happened, and whether or not he was taken care of or left alone in fear. There is a blog a mile long, from here to there, documenting so many of the things that he went through in words and in pictures. And if he had ever needed to ask any questions, he could have asked any one of us, because we all know the story of Oakes. Becky and Greg made it a love story and they shared it with everyone. Oh, how that has given me hope. That my story was a love story, too.
So now I'm packing up and headeing to the hospital in Tegucigalpa, and a week of baby heart surgeries. You would never have convinced me that this would be so when I toured the CICU before Oakes was born. But over the months that I spent at SLCH, I gradually became familiar, and yes, often, even comfortable with the comings and goings in Room 9. I knew most of the nurses by name. And many of the docs, too. If I was there during rounds, and I stood by Oakes' door, they would include me in the discussion, asking how Oaksie was doing, asking about certain behaviors. You get to know people over the course of 15 months. My life in the CICU prepared me to say “yes” when Becky asked me to sign on for this next adventure. Like Becky said, I'm not sure exactly what I'll be doing...just anything they ask me. I'll be carrying a camera and a tablet, sharing photos and stories with both the MOHF blog and the International Children's Heart Foundation blog. It's been a long journey from my first disturbing walk through the NICU. Right now, I feel a healthy mixture of apprehension and excitement. I've been praying for the team, and the children who will be undergoing these life-saving surgeries. I am expecting miracles and healing, for the families and for myself.
Ena, Grandpa Dale, Isla and Ashby making a statement!
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Update from Becky

Feeding the Coi.
Maybe the biggest heart leafs ever!
Isla being brave!
Black sand beach.
Thanks for finding us, Oakes!
Friday, September 27, 2013
Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation - Heart Gala - 11/16/13
Good afternoon, friends and family. We hope you are all doing well. Quick update for you from Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation….
Although our precious Oakes passed on to heaven almost 16 months ago, his legacy lives on bigger and better than ever here on Earth. Our biggest fundraiser of the year is quickly approaching. Yes, it is that time….Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation’s 2013 Heart Gala – dinner, auction, party! Saturday night, November 16th (this is TWO Saturdays before Thanksgiving) in St. Louis at historic Chase Park Plaza held in the elegant, rooftop Starlight Room. It will be an amazing night full of auctions, food, drinks, stories and a band to cap the evening. I have included details of the evening below. Ticket sales are OPEN. We are selling individual tickets as well as tables and sponsorships for the evening. For individual tickets, simply go to our new website at this link - http://www.mightyoakes.org/#!shop/c1djs. For those interested in purchasing a full table and/or being one of our mighty sponsors, please go to this link for more information – http://media.wix.com/ugd/6af4d5_462d69788e71a98beed7631600e40b4b.pdf. To reserve a full table and/or a sponsorship, you must contact Becky Ortyl at becky@mightyoakes.org or 314.374.5300. There are only 320 seats available at the gala and we anticipate selling out, so please don’t wait to buy your tickets!
Love,
Greg, Becky & Isla Ortyl
Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation
To learn more about MOHF, visit www.mightyoakes.org
To learn more about Oakes & the Ortyl family, visit www.babyortyl.blogspot.com
P.S. – if you are interested in donating an item for the silent or live auction, please contact Becky as we are still gathering items of all size and scale.
P.P.S. – So many of you have already generously donated, so we wanted to attach a letter from Becky detailing who and how your donations have helped!! Much more detail on this at the Gala.
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Gala Agenda
The evening starts at 6:00pm in the Zodiac room:
· Silent auction
· Wine pull
· Several great raffles throughout the silent auction
· Open bar and Hors d'oeurves
· Photo booth
At about 7:30pm we will move to the Starlight room for:
· Seated, three course dinner
· Open bar
· Presentation of sponsors during dinner
· We will be debuting a 4 minute professional video highlighting what MOHF has been doing these last couple of years and who we have helped.
· At the end of the video, the live auction will start.
· As soon as the live auction ends, the band - Groovethang! will start playing and the after-party will begin!
· Coffee and snacks will be served in the Zodiac room for those who are checking out and want to mingle away from the band.
Special room rates of $179 are available at the Chase Park Plaza (www.chaseparkplaza.com or 314.633.3000) both Friday and Saturday night. Just refer to Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation when making your reservation.
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Saturday, July 13, 2013
Taking orders for shirts til this Tuesday!
I have been working on a real post, but I wanted to quickly share that we are ordering some MOHF shirts this coming Tuesday, so let us know if you want a shirt or two, or six!
The shirts are red and a tri-blend shirt, so they are super soft and very stretchy. We are selling them in a unisex adult size and youth sizes. All shirts are $20. We are requesting an extra $3 if we need to mail to you. I am including pictures of the shirt, a size chart and images of my new red tri-blend shirt with a classic MOHF shirt over it to illustrate the size difference.
If you are interested in buying shirts, simply go to this link on our website and select Memorial Donation. In the personal message box, please include your order (be sure to specify adult sizes or youth sizes), and your mailing address.
Shirts will be ready at the end of the month, and we will mail/distribute them then.
If you have questions, comment below or email me: becky@mightyoakes.org
{Also, my sweet and creative sister Christina Fox has started a business doing calligraphy for many purposes. She wrote this "i am Mighty" for us, which I absolutely LOVE!!! If you are interested in following another Fox girl, you can follow on Instagram at: instagram.com/sendingheartstrings or view her website: Sendingheartstrings.com}
Friday, July 12, 2013
FW: The Latest From Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation...
Good evening, friends and family. I hope everyone is doing well and had a happy and safe holiday weekend. Just wanted to pass along a few updates for you all. There is a lot going on and we wanted to share!
· Congenital Heart Night at the Ballpark.
o This was a massive success, several thousand dollars raised for MOHF and a magical night across the board!
o For those of you who were not there, yes, I bounced the ball, but I did throw it hard. Microcosm of my college baseball career, I suppose. Some great pictures attached, including a picture of our family and Dr. Huddleston (Oakes’ lung transplant doctor) and his daughter.
o Just before I pitched, I was able to sprinkle a pinch of Oakesie’s ashes just behind the mound, so the Redbirds will have some extra mighty-ness when they need it most.
o Our dear friend, Heidi Drexler, put together a nice slideshow w/music at http://vimeo.com/66485024
· Save The Date for the blow-out Dinner-Auction “Heart Gala” on Saturday, November, 16, 2013 in the Starlight Room at the Chase Park Plaza. More details attached.
o Undoubtedly, another magical night is in store. Hundreds of people, amazing auction items, one of the best evening ballroom/balcony settings in St. Louis (a stone’s throw from Oakes’ CICU room) and lots of food, drinks and dancing, yes, dancing after dinner.
o We have not done this since November, 2011, so there is some pent-up energy in the air for this event….
· WE NEED YOUR VOTE!!
o Eagle Rare, the premium Kentucky Bourbon, recognizes one person each year who “leads a rare life.” Becky’s family nominated her and she is now in competition with dozens of other rare lifers for the opportunity to have $40,000 donated to the charity of their choice!
o That’s right, $40,000. The final 20 rare-lifers are determined strictly by Internet voting, so please go to this site, as often as you think about it, to vote for Becky!! http://www.eaglerarelife.com/content/becky-fox-ortyl
o 7 finalists will be selected by Eagle Rare from the top 20 vote-getters and then one of those 7 will be the Grand Prize Winner for 2014 and $40k will be donated to charity in that person’s name. Also, Eagle Rare throws a little shindig for that person, which would be a blast as well. Voting is through January, so let’s get her in the top 20 and let the story take us to the grand prize!
· Save The Date for the 2nd Annual 5K on Saturday, September 28, 2013.
o This was a great event last year and I may even run the thing this year!
· Save The Date for the Inaugural PEG Bandwidth Golf Tournament Benefitting Mighty Oakes Heart Foundation (for those who can get to Dallas, anyway) on Thursday, October 17, 2013.
o My company has been gracious enough to donate any net proceeds from our 1st ever golf tournament to MOHF! We will be playing a shot-gun tournament around Noon that day at a great golf course called The Tribute.
o Golf shirts, visors, raffle prizes, celebrities, food, drink – it’ll be a blast. More details to follow, but the net of this one is if you have any interest attending, email me otherwise you probably will not get a formal invite.
· Becky was on live television Sunday morning. Yep. Of course, she rocked it. It was very emotional when they started rolling the pictures and the video from when this TV station covered Oakes’ 1st Birthday, but some great memories. We actually had a family reach out to us already based on seeing the story on TV!
o Check it out: http://fox2now.com/2013/07/07/family-works-to-help-others-facing-tough-diagnosis/
o You can search “mighty oakes” from their home page to see last year’s story if you want.
· Since we started MOHF, we have raised over $200k and have helped, in some way, about 25 families. We have also coordinated many “treats” to the staff at the Heart Center at St. Louis Children’s Hospital and we have also donated many dozens of items to the Heart Center which will directly impact & improve the quality of the stay families and patients will have there.
· We have hired a firm to produce a video segment on MOHF – who we are, what we do, who we help. Should have that ready in the next couple of months. Can’t wait!
There are several more events this year including a pizza-wine dinner at Dewey’s and a team for the Rock n’ Roll marathon. The best way to keep in touch with us is through our Facebook page. I’d give it to you, but I’ve never been since I’m not on FB, but I’m probably the only one on this email distro, eh? FB, check us out!
Love,
Greg, Becky, Isla






























